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Cheer the Season

A few days before Christmas, always a hectic time. We make it so, don’t we? So it is up to us to not get caught on that maze. Have a talk with yourself and sort this out. Today!

Breathe in while you count to three, hold to the count of four and exhale counting five. Repeat as necessary. Once you are calm, take a look at the what you have done and what you think needs doing. Make an assessment: are the things left to be done so important that you are going to be stressed, even get sick?

Unless you really haven’t done anything and are waiting for the last minute……everything can be achieved or put aside. Before you get all worked out, remember that spending time with your loved ones, enjoying time with friends are the most important things this time of the year. Everything else is just what we have been conditioned to do because……(fill in your reasons here).

Decorations, presents, cooking and celebrating preferences have been decided, done and organized. Now you should turn to the part you have worked so hard for: enjoying the Season. Anything else is unimportant. Give yourself the gift of relaxing, resting is needed. Look around you, all is as ready as it’s going to be.

Enjoy the lunch with friends, the neighborhood Holiday party, the office Christmas party, the visits, the cheer and the whole thing. Do not waste time thinking what you should have done or what you want to change. The presents you’ve forgotten or the ones you think are not right. It’s too late for that and it will only give you more stress.

You have done a fabulous job. Sit back and relax with a cup or a glass of Cheer!

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Challenges

You are in Control

Yes, you are. It is finally absolutely clear to us that we know what we want, know how to get it and are in control of our lives. That is to say, as much as we can control anything. Of course, some of us have always known what we wanted and were able to have some control on things affecting our lives. If you are one of them, you are indeed lucky!!!

For the rest of us, this is a great thing. This is the time we are making decisions that will affect the rest of our lives. This is the time we must be sure of what we are going to do with those years still ahead of us. Life happens, that is true, but a measure of control over our decisions goes a long way to ensure our peace of mind as we move ahead.

Well meaning family members and friends will offer solutions, they will be sure we need their input and it is reassuring that they care and want to help……but the final saying is ours and that is as it should be. We must remember and we must tell them: we are in control, we know how we want to live our lives.

So take your time, make your plans, enjoy the ride that is still there for us. Have the answers you need and do not let anyone push you into something you are not ready for or willing to try. Life is good and if we are in control, we are free to enjoy it!!!

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Challenges

Regrets

Hurricane Season is part of your life if you live in Florida. It is always in the back of our minds, if not right and front when a storm threatens. It is then, when faced with a situation out of our control, that we all admit to some regrets. Definitely regrets are part of our lives, but in these times this is not good for us. After all, whatever we regret now, was a decision we made thinking it was the right one. We were satisfied with them at the time. Now we have much in our minds, we do not need regrets, not at all.

It is on hind sight that decisions become regrets. Once we analyze what happened afterwards, after we break apart the consequences. It is then that we regret. Regrets, then, are nothing more than we looking back and deciding we could have done something else, we could have said things differently, we could have waited, we could have kept our counsel. Hind sight, that is all and we must recognize that.

We can drive ourselves crazy, we can get upset and wish things would have been different. Unfortunately, life happens and we cannot change the past. There is no going back. We can wish and we can recriminate and go over everything again……we will achieve nothing.

Since we hardly make mistakes or make the wrong decision on purpose, it is unreasonable to regret. Why spend time regretting when we can spend it more productively. Moving on is always challenging, but it is more so when we are dealing with stressful situations. Concentrate on the present, work to make things easier for yourself and for everyone, leave regrets behind.

Let’s be prepared and hope the storm passes without causing too much destruction. Pay attention and be safe!!!