To Plan or not to Plan

A cool Campari and soda

Life is complicated, if we let it be. Or in some cases, even if we don’t allow it. It is the nature of living. So we can let it happen as it comes or we can plan how we want it to go. Yes, I do hear you. We can plan all we want and still do not come up with what we wanted.

Still, there are many out there who sear by planning. They map their life to the minute. In some cases with great success. Others will tell you that the life they are living just felt on their lap and they are just going along for the ride. Which is the best? to plan or not to plan. Have to say it is completely a matter of personality and preference. Here is why.

Planning everything to the last details can work well for people that crave organization and rules in their lives. Not planning and going with the flow is more for people that enjoy surprises and unexpected twists and turns. Now, how many of us are completely sure to what group do we belong? Certainly not me!!!

For years I was always saying that in our family we do not plan enough. Plan B was a favorite phrase. I used it for everything. Sometimes I was proven right and we indeed needed it. Sometimes all worked out just fine and it was never necessary. This applied to anything from trips to financial decisions to where and when to move. It made for a very interesting life.

Of course, I’ve known that all the planning in the world can go askew in a matter of minutes. So many circumstances are outside our field of influence. Decisions are taken out of our hands by events that have nothing to do with us. Planning , I have decided is overrated!

Let’s explain that. Plans are overrated when we depend on them for anything we do. Flexibility is more important. Go ahead and plan, but also be ready to change, tweak or totally forget that which you have planned. It is a liberating concept and one I am embracing joyfully!!!


Your Life is your Everyday

Stop and enjoy Nature!!

This is the biggest truth I know. Took some time to actually realize it, of course. We tend to focus on the big events in our lives. The small everyday events that make our days, we just brush off. Not for me anymore, I know better now.

In the rush to get things done, to manage our daily tasks, we fall into a pattern. Get the small things done quickly, so we can get to the big stuff. We are always looking forward to the next event in our lives, the trip, the visit to family, the birthday party, the wedding or the family reunion. All very valid and important things in our lives, but they only come once in a while. The excitement makes us believe that they are what we should focus on.

I have news for you, if you haven’t discovered this already. It’s the everyday events that make up our lives. Think having coffee with a friend, visiting your mother, reading that book you have been hearing so much about, a walk in the park, trying a new recipe or just taking a nap. That is life.

When you step back and think about it, you will understand this insight. You’ll realize that sometimes, staying home is the right thing. Do it. Other times, just stepping back and having time on your hands because you needed to is a gift. No other choice, but to enjoy what you can do at that moment.

Life is made of those moments, enjoy each and every one. No need to wait, nothing to organize, nothing to plan, nothing to buy. Sit back and live!!!


Let Life Happen

Desenzano del Garda, Lombardy, Italy

How many time we hear someone saying: just go with the flow? I do many times and from different people. Of course the meaning of the phrase can be the same, but the context always changes.

It doesn’t mean going with what is happening and letting the situation affect you. Going with what is happening and consciously letting it pass you and flow around without drawing you in, without attempting to control anything. That is what it means. Seems simple, isn’t it?

Nothing farther from the truth, we all know that. Life presents us with countless situations. We should not response to each one in the same manner, some we can ignore or let flow by. This is how it should be, but unfortunately it is not. We are still so involved in what is around us, trying not to miss anything that we miss life itself passing us by. It is human nature to try and control events. Realistically, no one can control everything, we should know better.

Since we have more years behind us than we have ahead of us, we must just go with the flow. Each day is a gift, a new opportunity to enjoy life and to make memories, to learn something useful, fun and to be grateful. This is our time, so go with the flow and let life happen….it will anyway!!!