September 2019 – GREY ATTITUDE

Football season has started and I am looking forward to my team giving me some pretty good games. After all, the Pats have won the Super Bowl 6 times!! Of course this is not about football, but it is definitely kind of sports related, in a broad sense.

All our lives, we have been cheerleaders. We have been there for our children, our husbands, our friends, our siblings. We have been busy keeping everything together. We have been working, raising children, caring for our parents. That was important and made us happy. It seems the right thing to do and we did it.

Yes, we have been the cheerleaders, on the side of the field looking in. Always watching, but not playing, present but not participating, not that we have been idle, but we were hardly the ones on the field. It was our choice in most cases.

Things have changed. We are now in position leave the sidelines and join the game. The years ahead are ours to live as we please. Go forth and become a player….you’ll be great at it!!!

Yes, you are. It is finally absolutely clear to us that we know what we want, know how to get it and are in control of our lives. That is to say, as much as we can control anything. Of course, some of us have always known what we wanted and were able to have some control on things affecting our lives. If you are one of them, you are indeed lucky!!!

For the rest of us, this is a great thing. This is the time we are making decisions that will affect the rest of our lives. This is the time we must be sure of what we are going to do with those years still ahead of us. Life happens, that is true, but a measure of control over our decisions goes a long way to ensure our peace of mind as we move ahead.

Well meaning family members and friends will offer solutions, they will be sure we need their input and it is reassuring that they care and want to help……but the final saying is ours and that is as it should be. We must remember and we must tell them: we are in control, we know how we want to live our lives.

So take your time, make your plans, enjoy the ride that is still there for us. Have the answers you need and do not let anyone push you into something you are not ready for or willing to try. Life is good and if we are in control, we are free to enjoy it!!!